In this post I want to share my experience of an incredible event I went to that (as I like to say) nurtured my inner goddess ✨.
In our previous blog post ‘Behind the Brand’ I explained how AccentsUK was formed to empower females. After being in a verbally abusive relationship and healing myself I’ve had a passion to help women feel beautiful, accepted and powerful, so, I created AccentsUK curating and producing my range of jewellery collections to make you feel exactly that. As the founder of AccentsUK, there are of course moments where I’m not 100% ok…I am human too, and I just want to say that it’s ok for us to admit this, we are allowed to feel down or angry sometimes; it is normal for certain situations to make us feel these emotions…it’s difficult to be confident and happy 24/7. This is exactly where Zainab comes in. Zainab Mohuiddinis an Inner Confidence Coach and a practitioner in EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Matrix Re-imprinting; I met Zainab a few months ago and I was instantly attracted, not just by her wealth of knowledge but her energy is infectious and so lovely to be around too.
On 24th March 2019 I had the absolute pleasure of attending her first ever Mindful Mehndi day event and I just knew I wanted to share my experience with you. I booked tickets quite soon after she announced it live as I knew it would sell out (which it did!). My brother & I bought an extra ticket for my mum too and surprised her with it as a Mother’s Day present knowing that this would be a great event for her to attend.
All of the professional pictures I have included in this post were taken by the talented Sonal from Photography by Sonal’s, she was so discreet that I didn’t even know she had any pictures of me till she sent them! She really captured the essence of the day beautifully.
As there was a lot we went through I have handpicked a few of the big teachings I want to share with you in this post. The event was held at Headspace not far from Angel underground station in London. As I entered the lovely bright room, I noticed how all of the chairs were placed in one big circle with material and cushions in the middle if anyone wished to sit on the floor, the room looked neat yet inviting. After being seated, I looked around the room and everyone had smiles on their faces- all looking forward to what the day was to bring no doubt. While observing the room I felt a little overwhelm all of a sudden; I started over-thinking. I knew I trusted Zainab and her energy to keep me safe but… how are we as a group going to create a safe space with all of us individuals, are we going to be able to go deep, will everyone be sensitive to each other’s feelings and emotions? Naturally, I had all of these thoughts running through my mind at 100mph, but once we got through the first task of a group meditation and introducing ourselves, all of those thoughts disappeared almost instantly. To be able to hear exactly in detail why each lady bought her ticket was amazing; although we’re all in different stages of our lives we were able to relate to one another and form this unexplainable bond.
After the initial introduction and getting to know each other, Zainab started explaining how EFT (emotional freedom technique) works and we did an exercise on how to identify emotions and give them colours and shapes to really visualise them. This technique involves tapping through energy points to unblock them and lessen their intensity, which we all did a round of together. (Definitely follow Zainab’s Facebook and Instagram pages as she probably explains this technique a lot better with the science behind it.) It was an insightful exercise though as initially we couldn’t think of visualising an emotion and giving it a colour until Zainab put us in a real scenario and when focused we managed to.
After this we had a break and were treated to the most delicious vegan snacks made by Kajal from Kajal’s Healthy Kitchen, honestly, everything tasted so so good. My favourite were her vegan chocolate brownies, I haven’t stopped talking about them to everyone I have met since!
Coming back from our break we got straight back in with Zainab talking us through frustration and anger, it was such a breath of fresh air to be told that it is ok to be angry and that you can’t be positive 100% of the time, as I resonate with this a lot. I am aware of my emotions and it should be ok for me to be angry or even upset sometimes; we are all human! What was great here was that she taught us a range of practices to release this anger; and we were given the chance to test them out! It was a bit uncomfortable initially but once you block out everyone from the room and close your eyes, this works! The only reason I found it uncomfortable was simply because as a person I’m not a publicly dance-y, loud person so closing my eyes was just how I was able to focus to make sure I made the most of this exercise and I am really glad I did.
Her techniques here involved stomping, screaming, punching cushions plus others, all of these methods use a lot of physical energy. We were all out of breath at the end of this- which was amazing because we felt great after releasing all of this pent up frustration in us! I felt the difference straight away.
Throughout the day in our breaks and at lunch time we had the lovely Tanya Vyas from The Henna Boutique giving us mini mindful mehndi sessions, I love the look of mehndi and have seen Tanya’s floral designs prior to this event too so I had already planned where I wanted my design! During this beautiful experience Tanya asked us to really focus on the smell, the cool feeling and texture of the mehndi getting designed. I asked for a small design on the side of my hand, and just focusing on the actual experience was so relaxing; it’s amazing how you change an experience completely by focusing on it differently.
After lunch was one of my favourite parts of the day! Zainab created this exercise called ‘Accept & Listen’ where we share our deepest thoughts with a partner. She demonstrated this first and then asked us to get into a pair with someone who we haven’t spoken to before, it was lovely to be in an open loving environment where every one was happy to pair up and open up. We took turns to place our palms face down on theirs, looking directly at each other and saying “I don’t want you to know this but…” and you finish the sentence with something that you wouldn’t usually think of saying out loud, and in response your partner listening breathes a sigh of release after you’ve finished your sentence. I opened up and shared things I have never expressed verbally, it felt amazing to say these things out loud to someone that just accepted what I said without judgement and in turn just listened without interrupting; there was a new found comfort and liberation I found in this silence and method of sharing. This is one technique I would genuinely advise everyone to learn and practice and bring into your relationship/s; I would personally love to as well for the bond and trust it creates.
The last big exercise of the day was the ecstatic dance, my god…I was dreading this! For someone who’s not a natural born dancer (a Beyonce in my mind though 🙋🏽♀️💃🏽) and who uses her trusty two-step move with all genre’s of music, I was definitely terrified, I even spoke to Zainab about it before the event! BUT! It wasn’t bad at all, Zainab played a range of different music (with no lyrics) and I felt ok and quite relaxed actually closing my eyes and letting my body sway how it wanted to. We also got in small groups and made a ‘group move’ without using any words to communicate which was really interesting as you really see how gestures and movements are a form of communication…it turned out to be quite freeing.
We naturally ended with a group meditation and reflection on the day as a group. My mum & I left this event on such a high! Being in the presence of such amazing women who were just loving and accepting and open was incredible. This event is definitely one worth going to, it’s expanded my mind and given me techniques I can use easily on a daily basis. My mum thoroughly enjoyed it and said it was the best Mother’s Day present to date and has been thanking me ever since! ✨